Driving you car forward looking in the rear view mirror.
A major hindrance to succeeding in your personal life or relationships
is trying to go forward looking in the rear view mirror. Try driving your
car sometime like that. Get on a open stretch of road with nobody on it
and try driving only looking in the rear view mirror. It’s kind of
exciting and you can actually move forward. On a good straight away you
can even pick up some speed, maybe 20 or 30 miles per/hour but as soon as
you come to some obstacles, a turn in the road you are going to go off the
road and crash. It is guaranteed to happen because you can not see what’s
coming up in the rear view mirror. You can’t properly deal with the
future obstacles from past events.
The deception is that the road continues to look straight through the
mirror, the rocks and hills have gone by and you think that your on the
way but the truth is your not, your heading for disaster, maybe a cliff
and your cruising right along. That is life, and especially relationships.
Nothing is straight forward, their will always be bumps and curves, rocks
and hills, narrow bridges, steep cliffs and oncoming traffic that will
require are attention. One of the problems is attention is all that most
people give. I am saying that’s not enough. You will not be satisfied
with just being aware of the obstacles. It requires more than our
attention. It will require us to look forward as far as we can and choose
a destination that will serve us well. It is called setting a goal. The
really deceptive part of trying to go forward looking through the rear
view mirror is that we feel like we are getting somewhere. The truth is we
are just not making significant enough progress to complete a journey. The
bottom line is you will never get there but you will be on the road which
can easily fool you that things are okay. All of those bumps, curves,
hills, rocks and oncoming traffic are the insecurities, emotional wounds
that have not been healed, fears, dysfunction's of life skills and lack of
commitment toward your decisions will take all of your skill and quite
possibly the skills of others but the one definite thing that only you can
do is decide what you want. Get clear on your goals and learn how to set
them properly.
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